The Right Words
Over the last couple of weeks, the focus of the wedding has been the ceremony itself. More precisely—where, exactly, on the grounds will it be held? What will be said (we are writing it ourselves, but borrowing heavily from models)? And, of course, the thing that took up the most of our time and energy—finding readings for the ceremony. A wedding ceremony is a very personal experience for everyone, of course. It’s fraught with a lot of pressure to be individual, to communicate the essence of your relationship to your closest friends and family, and to be at least somewhat entertaining.
Because both Joe and I are what you would call “book people,” our readings were immensely important to us, and because we are only doing two, we wanted to be sure we were choosing the right ones. Scratch that–the PERFECT ones. Obviously, this took us quite some time. We had many considerations:
- Readability: No one wants to saddle their readers with a long-winded reading full of antiquated language or difficult-to-pronounce words.
- Length: Not too short, and not too long. We are trying to keep our ceremony brief, so this one was important.
- Engagement: Was it going to be enjoyable for guests to listen to this reading? We didn’t want to choose anything too abstract, obscure, or flat out boring.
- Format: We are not religious, so religious readings were out. We both love music, but felt that song lyrics weren’t the way to go either. Choosing passages from favorite books proved too challenging and daunting a task. Ultimately, we chose two poems.
- Appropriateness: You’d be surprised at how many poems talk about bodies, desire, kisses, touching…nice things, sure, but not exactly the stuff you want to talk about in front of your grandmother at your wedding.
- Originality: We’ve been to many weddings between the two of us, and the last thing we wanted was to repeat/steal anyone else’s readings. Hopefully we’ve avoided this!
- Sentiment: Above all, we wanted readings that resonated personally with each of us, and communicated some aspects of our relationship, and what it means to us. This, of course, was the most difficult part of all.
*Image from Obvious State